Mindfulness in Your Relationship
10 years strong!
We just hit our 10-year anniversary. In the past 10 years, there were a lot of ups, and like any healthy relationship there were some downs. It is how you handle the downs, that define your relationship. I write in my journal almost every day, which is helping me write most of the content in my blog posts. They are experiences I reflect on, but I do not relive them.
Here are a couple,
First one, understand the storyline in your mind. Just think of the times you are thinking of a situation or a conversation you are about to have with your partner. Now in your head, you are pretending to guess your partners response, maybe you can hear their voice. Realize, it may be their voice, but it is your response. Strange right? You continue to play the conversation in your mind and now you’re angry because of what they might think or say. Now the situation plays out in reality, and you are already set on your emotional response. No one wins.
Next one happens all the time, even after 6 years of being aware of moments, I get this one wrong. I had a long day at work, doesn’t matter if the day went well or not, you are drained. You go home and your partner is not at the same energy level or you don’t like something they said or done. Your partner didn’t go through the same day as you, didn’t experience anything you did, so asking them to isn’t fair.
Don’t play victim.
Now is everything always my fault? No, but don’t read this post alone, read it together. Remember, you both put the right effort in, it will last a lifetime. Try this, before coming into your house, take 2 minutes and both of you leave work at work. If you are working from home, go for a walk after work and when you walk back in the door, you reset.
Your partner cares, but they can’t experience what you experience. You care, but you cannot imagine how your partner feels. If both of you control your own energy, you got a shot.
Need a reset?
Follow the mindful exercise below.
